6 Reasons Why Your Long Time Boyfriend Will Never Marry You (Must Read Ladies)

21 June 2016

1. He has enjoyed every part of you :

Nobody likes to eat rice all the time or beans, consumers always change taste in this case guys are the consumers. He has been strafing you for months and years same Kitty-Cat, same bo-obs.
The guy got to change taste.

2. All you bring is your problem or family’s for discussion :
Most girls do this, when they start a topic it must be about something the guy has to do for me,mostly financial problems. Sooner or later the guy will run away from liability. As if is only girls that have problem in this world.

3. You have collected the BRIDE PRICE already :
The money some guys spend on GF is enough to pay her bride price for 20 consecutive years, iPhone 6 price can even build a mansion in her village.

4. When you keep male friends like movie collection :
There is probability that out of every 6 male friends a girl keeps, there is a Side-guy or BF amongst them

5. When he discovers he is not the true landlord of the honey-pot;
Guys always have ears around their GF even side-chick.whenever he heard you have a main guy from family and friends. He won’t dump you but turn you to se x slave and will never marry you.

Ten Romantic Activities to Inspire Couples

21 June 2016

If you’re wanting to know how you can be more romantic in your relationship, you’ve come to the right place. The sky’s the limit when it comes to inspiring romance. Assigning high priority to daily acts of romance strengthens bonds, and enhances the quality of long-term partnerships. This article aims to give romantic relationship advice and offers ten powerful romance-boosting activities to get lovers started.

Defining romance

Most people think of “romance” as those cliché’ activities such as watching the sunset together, candlelit dinners, or drinking wine by a roaring fire. While those activities are indeed romantic, the idea is to initiate small but meaningful acts that demonstrate love and adoration.

Romantic activities can be simple, such as, picking a rose for your partner occasionally, or strategically hidden love note. They can also be elaborate, like planning surprise vacations, or decorating the house with candy chains and rose petals.

Whether big or small, it’s the actions you perform consciously, made for the express purpose of saying “I love you”.

What you should know about romance:

1.It creates opportunities for partners to spend time together and enhances bonds
2. It strengthens intimacy; bringing about physiological chemicals associated with love
3. It allows for increased communication
4. It allows for humor, entertainment, and adventure
5. It creates a constant reminder of love and adoration
6. It keeps things fresh and lively, (especially important over the long-term)
7. It helps partners get to know one another
8. It promotes and reconstitutes feelings of respect and reciprocity
9. It makes for suspense, anticipation, and fun
10. A truly romantic relationship will be virtually devoid of boredom

How can I start incorporating romance into my relationship?

While it is never too late to get started, proactive couples may implement romantic activities early on. In doing so, romance can become a natural part of your connection which may last for years to come.

Below we’ve listed ten techniques for your convenience. While these ideas are yours to use as you like, remember it is best to use these as a guide, adapting them, embellishing or improvising them, as well as coming up with some of your own. Remember that romantic things to do must be creative, adaptive, and fun.

Here are some romantic ideas for him and her that can be adopted easily:

1. Gift-Giving: Abide by the rule that gifts should always be wrapped. A tip to help those out there with busy lives is to stock up on gifts, hiding them so they may be brought out when the time is right. Appropriate times in which to give an unwrapped gift lies in the presentation, for example: a necklace can be strung around a teddy bear, or an engagement ring in the bottom of a champagne glass.

2. Greeting cards: A greeting card can be given with almost any gift, and keeping a stockpile of them may come in handy when you don’t have time to shop. They may be accompanied by flowers, chocolates, balloons, a stuffed animal, or other gift.

3. Mail order subscriptions: Does your partner like chocolate, lingerie, perfume? Many companies offer clubs or memberships, which send off samples monthly by mail.

4. Wash his feet: Grab a tub of hot soapy water and a loofah; wash his feet, dry them, and then continue about your business. He will be honored and speechless.

5. Professional massage: You can massage your partner yourself, or if you’re not confident in your skills, set up an appointment for two at a spa or massage parlor. The two of you will enjoy having a relaxing massage together.

6. Poetry and music: If you’re creative, write a one page poem about your partner and have it written in calligraphy and framed. Or, see how you can have an album by his favorite musician autographed and mailed.

7. Photo album: Put together a secret photo album that serves as a memoir of you and your partner’s lives together. It can have baby pictures of each of you, then a timeline represented by pictures of you before you met, while courting, and into the present. Once finished, you can spend hours reminiscing over your memories.

8. Towel in the dryer: Towel him or her off with a pre-warmed towel after a shower or bath. They are guaranteed to love it.

9. Surprise scavenger hunt: Hide a series of notes strategically around the house with riddles. Your partner will go nuts figuring out each riddle and locating each new clue. At the end of the scavenger hunt, a prize should be waiting.

10. Candy notes: If your partner likes candy, you can leave all sorts of quippy but cheesy notes with candy. A pack of Red Hots can say “I’m hot for you”, or hershey’s kisses can be used as coupons for “kisses” or other sensual favors.

9 powerful Sentences that Can Change Your Life

20 June 2016
Here are 9 powerful sentences that can change your life for the better.

1. “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.”

2.“The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so you better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.”

3. “If you accept your limitations you go beyond them.”

4.“Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something”

5.“Comfort is the enemy of achievement.”

6.“The most dangerous risk of all – The risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later”

7.“You learn more from failure than from success; don’t let it stop you. Failure builds character.”

8.“Climb mountains not so the world can see you, but so you can see the world.”

9.“People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.”

Kenya: Varsity Student Crowned Miss Tourism

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 22-year-old mass communication student is the fairest of them all. On Saturday, Ms Wendy Omolo from Homa Bay County was crowned Miss Tourism Kenya 2016 during a gala night held at Kidundu Stadium, Vihiga County.

Ms Omolo took home the coveted title in the finals against Uasin Gishu's Kezia Matakala and Winnie Chepng'etich from Bomet County.

Ms Matakala emerged second, winning an award in hospitality, while Ms Chepng'etich bagged the second runners up title award in investment.

Ms Omolo, a Moi University student awaiting graduation, was crowned in a ritzy ceremony and had been rated among top 10 contestants.

She also excelled in the peace and unity Award and formal dressing.

A sassy Omolo wore a red evening gown that went well with the occasion. Miss Omolo was crowned winner at 5.15am Sunday after beating a bevy of 41 lookers.

Asked why she decided to contest in a beauty pageant, she said: "When I am on stage or when I am doing my charity work, you see a different person. I love meeting people, I love travelling and I love going places," she said.

Ms Omolo plans to do charity work during her reign. The Sh100 million event brought together 3,000 people, among them more than 10 governors, led by Vihiga's Moses Akaranga. It ran through the night of Saturday June 18.

Also present was Cord leader Raila Odinga, Water Cabinet Secretary Eugene Wamalwa, Mining Cabinet Secretary Dan Kazungu and Miss Tourism Kenya Director Alice Kamunge.

Immediately she was named the winner, the crowd burst into song and dance, with delegations from the lake side county of Homa Bay joining her on the main dais.

She shed tears of joy and quickly said she was ready to take up the task of marketing Kenya's potential as a tourist and investment destination.

Renowned gospel artiste Mercy Masika entertained the lively crowd in the warm moonlit night. The event rolled over from Saturday night to Sunday morning with a host of comedians taking the stage to keep the guests entertained.

Participating counties were divided into nine regions that included the coast, great Nairobi, North Rift, South Rift, South Savanna, Northern Frontier, Western, Nyanza and Mt Kenya.

AGAINST ALL ODDS

The winner took home a grand package of Sh1.2 million that included a destination of her choice.

Winners for various other categories were also awarded, with Murang'a County bagging the award for the region that was most voted for by the public after attaining 44,471 votes through short messaging service.

Mombasa's Miss Babylynn Mukila, who is deaf, received an award of honour for taking part in the competitions despite her disability. Mr Kazungu also awarded Miss Mukila for beating all odds to be part of the competition.

He said: "This is culture, integration, tourism and cohesion."

Mr Akaranga, who enumerated the various tourism attraction sites in Vihiga, said the event was welcome as it aimed at enabling all the communities in the country know each other and foster the spirit of one country.

"So many counties are here today. This is a sign of unity that must be embraced at all times," said Mr Akaranga.

Bomet Governor Isaac Ruto said: "It is devolution that has enabled us meet here today. This has never happened before in our country for the past 60 years. All the 42 tribes of Kenya are here today."

Officials from the Ministry of Tourism were conspicuously missing at the event with no representative sent to grace the event whose main agenda aims at advancing promotion of tourism.

This year's theme is 'Exploring our cultural heritage for social and economic development of our people'.

Self-deception is common risk in life

ONE thing is to hear about a story, but it is crucial to know that you know your story. Who else would? Sometimes people ask this question, but really, how well do you know yourself and your story?

Sometimes we are afraid to go beneath the reflective surface of your conscious thought. I always remind myself that in a deep pool of nearly forgotten lived experiences that affect what we as human beings, how we feel and what we choose to do.

Another important question to ask oneself is why do you like the music you like? The kinds of friends you make? Why do some things make you feel deeply happy? Why do other things make you angry?

Your particular story lies beneath all those aspects of your conscious life. Religions and philosophers convey the same wakeup call that it’s important to be in touch with your story— and that for two reasons.

Our parents, spiritual leaders, philosophers, organisation gurus always remind us that knowing your story can help you understand yourself, especially your strengths, your limits and why some values are especially important to you.

Again, they tell us knowing your story helps you understand that all other persons have their own stories and those affect their thought, their feelings, their moral values and even their ability to act. Knowing your story helps you understand where others are coming from. But, it is unfortunate to find that one who is so close to one’s own story may not see it as a story.

Things happen to you and you make choices, but it takes a special kind of thinking to see how it all connects to shape you. If Members of Parliament (MPs) from opposition and the CCM ruling party will be willing to contemplate their choices they might be able to reach an amicable solution in the current standoff in the House in Dodoma. Philosophers keep advising us that we have to develop that special kind of thinking. How?

One good strategy is to read. Read good literature, stories with strong character portrayal, not just action stories. Read good literature from cultures other than your own, too. I was expecting the MPs to challenge the former speaker of the National Assembly by responding to his arguments that the CCM MPs are not bullying the opposition and that the Parliament is not a rubber stamp.

Alas, no one from the opposition has done so, instead we continue seeing the walkout episode from the House. What a pity! Some people are too biased and prejudiced to read about Chinese philosophy or Islamic civilisation, Christianity or Indian Buddhist values or even other cultures. Why not put your bias behind and start thinking positive about other cultures and values. Definitely that helps you understand and appreciate yourself.

It also helps you develop empathy - the ability to understand and appreciate others. Empathy is very important on the Moral Highway especially for those representing the electorate in the National Assembly.

We are also advised by philosophers both in our religions and ethical world that everyone has to reflect on one’s story, to make conscious those nearly forgotten lived experiences.

Thus, through such reflections one can better understand where one is coming from. But even then, one needs to be a bit skeptical about one’s picture of oneself. My take is that self-deception is a common risk—drawing a picture of yourself that’s more flattering than accurate.

As you reflect on your story, pay special attention to what other people think of you and how other people respond to you. Be ready to laugh at yourself, too.

The Health Benefits of Masturbation

To celebrate masturbation and in a bid to lessen continuing taboo and shame which pervades the topic, International Masturbation Month is being celebrated throughout May around the world. To mark the occasion and how far society has come since our Victorian forefathers, here are some of the reported health benefits of masturbation:

1.    It can prevent depression 

Research suggests orgasms increase endorphins, which in turn stave off depression.

2.    It can reduce risk of cervical cancer

Research has suggested female masturbation can protect against cervical infections as orgasms regularly flex the cervix.

3.    It’s good for your self-esteem 

Experts say people who are comfortable about masturbating are more comfortable with their bodies and sexuality. 

4.    It helps you sleep

Orgasms lower blood pressure and relax endorphins, letting you drift into a peaceful sleep afterwards.

5.    It eases menstrual cramps

Many women report period pain being lessened or stopped by masturbation.

6. It reduces risk of prostate cancer

Research presented at the most recent American Urological Annual Meeting suggested men who ejaculate at least monthly may be less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer later in life.

7.    It’s STD free

Nearly half a million people in the UK are diagnosed with an STD every year ranging from HIV to syphilis. For obvious reasons, masturbation does not carry the same risks, unless you've recently come into contact with someone who has a condition which can be transfered by intimate contact.

8.    Ditto unwanted pregnancies

For similarly obvious reasons.

9 Ways Men can Appear more Attractive to Women

1. Look for the universal signals of flirtation. 

Rutgers University anthropologist and best-selling author Helen E. Fisher says that from the depth of the Amazons to the cafés of Paris, women signal interest with a remarkably similar sequence of expressions.

As she shared at Psychology Today, it goes like this:

First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him. Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away. Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms. 

This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest.

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2. Look for someone 'in your league.'

Men — and women — are attracted to people who are as attractive as they are.

"If you go for someone roughly equally to you in attractiveness, it avoids two things," Nottingham Trent University psychologist Dr. Mark Sergeant tells The Telegraph.

"If they are much better-looking than you, you are worried about them going off and having affairs," he says. "If they are much less attractive, you are worried that you could do better."

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3. Present yourself as high status. 

In 1969, University of North Carolina sociologist Glen Elder found that looks and wealth tend to find one another — namely, good-looking women tended to settle down with less attractive but wealthier men. 

Since then, it's become a well-confirmed finding in the social sciences.

Most recently, a 2010 study found that men pictured with a Silver Bentley Continental GT were way more attractive than those pictures with a Red Ford Fiesta ST, and a 2014 study found that men pictured in luxury apartment were more attractive than those in a control group. 

Why the attraction to resources? Evolutionary psychologists say it's because women want a mate who can provide for them.

4. Look older.

As a 2010 study of 3,770 people showed, women often prefer older men. As they become more financially independent, they like older guys even more. 

"We think this suggests greater financial independence gives women more confidence in partner choices, and attracts them to powerful, attractive older men," lead author and University of Dundee psychologist Fhionna Moore said in a statement. 

Evolutionary psychologists say that younger women and older men often pair up because while fertility only lasts from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for many men — and they have a greater opportunity to accumulate status and resources.

5. Grow a light beard.

While some claim that the beard trend is over, the research says it's not. 

According to a 2013 Australian study, the most attractive beard length is "heavy stubble," which comes after about 10 days of growth.

"Facial hair correlates not only with maturity and masculinity, but also with dominance and aggression," write authors Barnaby J. Dixson and Robert C. Brooks.

"An intermediate level of beardedness is most attractive," they added.

It only takes a bit of maintenance to keep that 10-day beard all the time. 

6. Build muscle (but not too much).

A 2007 University of California at Los Angeles study found that women are more likely to have short-term relationships with guys who have big muscles. 

The evolutionary signal at work here? 

Sexual characteristics like muscularity are "cues of genes that increase offspring viability or reproductive success," say authors David A. Frederick and Martie G. Haselton. 

But Frederick and Haselton took away another telling finding: Less-muscular men were thought to be a better fit for long-term relationships. 

7. Be kind.

One of the most robust findings in psychology is the halo effect, a bias where you unconsciously take one aspect of somebody as a proxy for their overall character. It's why we think beautiful people are good at their jobs, even when they aren't.

But as Scott Barry Kaufman at Greater Good notes, the halo effect works in other ways too. 

A 2014 Chinese study found that people who had positive personality traits — like kindness and honesty — were rated as more attractive than those with negative personality traits, like being evil or mean. 

"Even though beauty is an assessment of fitness value, there is no reason why assessment of fitness needs to be purely physical," Kaufman writes, meaning that being kind makes you look like you'd be a stable, worthwhile mate.

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8. Talk about your emotions.

Contrary to the 1950s ideal of the aloof breadwinner, women are into men who can talk about their feelings. 

"When men are vulnerable women find them more desirable both emotionally and sexually," says psychologist and life coach Lisa Kaplin.

"Being vulnerable will not hurt men's masculinity: just the opposite," she continues. "Emotionally well-rounded men are more desirable to more women and are ultimately likely to be emotionally stable and better long-term partners than men who are closed up and unwilling to share intimate parts of their lives."

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9. Wear red.

A 2010 cross-cultural study — with participants from China, England, Germany, and the US — found that women are most attracted to men wearing red. 

It's been a symbol of status since at least the Roman times, when the most powerful men were called coccinati, the ones who wear red. Red works for women, too.

5 Secrets to make him crazy for you

1. Show interest

Many women are shy about expressing their sexual desires; however, it’s healthy to discard prejudices and express what you want. Husbands want their wives to initiate se-x instead of making excuses when he seeks it. Having both spouses initiate se-x creates a healthy sexual relationship.

2. Take care of appearance

Many women neglect themselves over time. Try to stay well-groomed and healthy. Do what you need to develop a good self-esteem. It doesn’t cost anything to please the eyes of someone you love.

3. Don’t hate on yourself

You’re smart! You’re beautiful! While it will help you feel better to do the above, also realize we all have imperfections, and your husband loves you the way you are. Insecurities like, “I’m overweight,” or “I do not like my body,” can greatly impair sexual life. Love and value yourself. Highlight what you like about yourself and draw his attention to it.

4. Show love in simple ways

Look for the small things he enjoys about life. Doing those little things throughout the day can help you both feel more in love. When the time comes to be intimate, it comes more naturally for you both. This is a great weapon of seduction.

5. Give of yourself, body and soul

Life and stress happens. You may need to take some time to release negative emotions about him before you can have a desire to be intimate. Learn to focus on the positive. Healthy sexual relationships can help strengthen the love you feel for each other.

20 Things you should be doing for your wife every day

Make your wife’s day, every day, with these simple acts that will remind her of your love for her.

1. Tell her you love her

You must tell her you love her more than once per day, including when you leave and when you come home. Because texting is so popular, you can even text her; although telling her face-to-face is the most important and intimate.

2. Show her you love her

Of all the things you need to do every single day, this is perhaps the most vital. You can tell her all you want, but showing her is the sauna of everyday living. Showing, not telling, is the writer’s mantra, and should be a husband’s. Thousands of ways exist on how to show your wife you love her. Be creative – Every. Single. Day.

3. Pick up after yourself

Nothing is less sexy than heaps of clothes, shoes, socks, candy wrappers, etc. lying everywhere. Surely you can spend the few minutes to put away your shoes, place your socks in the dirty clothes or even hang up your pants. It’s just plain laziness to flop stuff on the floor or pile a zillion T-shirts on the chair next to your bed.

4. Clean around your sink

Yuck! One of the most unsanitary places in America today, aside from your computer keyboard, is your sink. Clean it every day and reach over and clean your spouse’s. She will be pleasantly surprised and grateful.

5. Iron your own clothes

Try doing the ironing yourself. You would be surprised how relaxing – even therapeutic – it really is.

6. Write her a note

This could be the simplest one you do. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy; just a note to let her know she is beautiful, or to have a good day. Put it in her pocket or out somewhere she can see it. Try a sticky note on the mirror in the bathroom.

7. Make the bed

Or at least help make the bed. It’s always easier when two make the bed, and it takes just a few moments of your time. There is a certain something refreshing about a made bed.

8. Don’t complain

Surely, you can refrain from complaining once per day – make it twice tomorrow. Complaining is a sign of pessimism.

9. Read to her

You may not be a reader, but reading something to her every day is sweet and intimate. It could be one of the comics from the daily paper, a Bible verse or two, or an incredible passage from the novel you are reading.

10. Brush your teeth

Freshness is a key to happiness.

11. Don’t ask about what needs to be done

Having to ask shows you are non-observant. She probably has hinted and maybe even come right out and said, “Dear, would you do this?” Be observant; look around; listen to her.

12. Put the dishes in the dishwasher

There is no reason to leave them in the sink or on the table. If it’s full, empty it.

13. Pull in the garage straight

Garage space is sacred space; so, make sure you pull in straight and on your own side. Encroaching on her spot is not cool. If her car is outside, go ahead and put hers away, too. It’s one of those showing-you-love-her things.

14. Take care of the garbage

It’s always your turn to take out the garbage – no questions asked.

15. Lock the doors and turn out the lights

At night, walk around the house, lock the doors and turn out the lights. Your spouse will feel safe and protected by you completing this task.

16. Hug her

Hugs in the morning. Hugs when you come home. Hugs when you go to bed. And make sure they aren’t just a mere squeeze. Give her bear hugs.

17. Compliment her

Remind her how much you love that smile you fell in love with. There are lots of things you love about her, so remind her of them often.

18. Help with the dishes without being asked

Along with putting dishes into the dishwasher, help with dishes during cooking and after meals.

19. Make one of the meals

This may mean you have to learn how to cook something. But your efforts will be much appreciated when you have a delicious meal prepared for her.

20. Have an incredible conversation each day

In today’s society, with so much technology, long work days, etc., we seldom have time for conversation. Your marriage will be strengthened if you take the time to actually talk to your wife every day.

Memorize this list, add to it and always remember two important words: “Yes, Dear.”

Ugandan Students Strike Over Mini-Skirt Ban

Photo the Monitor

More than 1,300 students of Aduku Secondary School, Apac District, have been sent home following a violent strike which resulted into the destruction of school property worth about Shs100 million.

School authorities said the last Saturday night strike was sparked off by a ban on wearing of mini-skirts and tight trousers.

Last week, the school administration confiscated all mini-skirts and tight trousers, a move which reportedly annoyed the students. Aduku SS is an Anglican-founded mixed O and A-level boarding school.

Before the strike, the students had also claimed that they were not comfortable with having porridge for breakfast early in the morning at 6am, the time when they should still be enjoying their sleep.

Kim Kardashian says she hates her moneymaker: 'I don't love my butt being so big'

The mother-of-two is a person like everyone else, though most of us probably forget that from time to time.

And as a real life human being, she has revealed she has things she's not so fond of about herself.

But the body part she said may surprise you, considering it's one of her most known features.

"I love curves, but I don't love my butt and my hips being so big.

"I totally have insecurities," she said.

The comments are in relation to her body post-pregnancy following her giving birth to Saint in December last year.

And she was so conscious of her body she wouldn't even show it to husband Kanye.

"My butt was huge. I would walk backwards so he couldn't see.

"And I would be so insecure about changing in a fitting like, 'Babe, you can't look at me!'" she continued.

But the rapper is one of her biggest fans, she revealed, supporting her with her baby weight.

She added to People: "I'd know when I was starting to look better because my husband would be like, 'Babe, you look so good!'

"He would never make me feel insecure. But I would always know when he was seeing a difference."

Samuel Eto'o gets married in Italy as former Barcelona team-mate Carles Puyol attends stunning ceremony

Former Barcelona and Chelsea striker Samuel Eto'o got married on Tuesday to long-term girlfriend Georgette Tra Lou in a stunning ceremony.

The ex-Cameroon international's wedding took place in Stezzano, Italy, as hundreds flocked to see Eto'o and his new wife outside the church.

The 35-year-old, who spent two seasons in Serie A with Inter Milan before another spell with Sampdoria, was dressed in a sharp grey suit and arrived in a vintage car.

Georgette Tra Lou, mother to Eto'o's two children, was pictured being helped out a classic car before making her way past the waiting public.

Eto'o's former Barcelona team-mate and captain Carles Puyol was also in attendance for the forward's special day. 

According to reports, Eto'o and his new wife have actually been married since 2007 but were yet to hold a white wedding.

Eto'o, who currently plays for Antalyaspor in Turkey, also spent half a season with Everton during the 2014-15 campaign. 

10 ways your partner is unfaithful to you

Having an affair is not even on your radar. Never gonna happen. You love your spouse and you’d never be unfaithful to her or him. However, you may be unaware of other ways you are being unfaithful. If these actions continue, you may find yourself on the slippery slope that leads to that never-intended affair and a sorrow you never wanted in your life.

Unfaithfulness usually creeps in through the back door, disguising itself as harmless fun or innocent behavior. If you want your marriage to endure and be filled with happiness you may need to check this list to see if you have fallen prey to any of these unfaithful behaviors.

1. Flirting

Having a little playful fun at the office with a co-worker can’t be too bad, you may rationalize. After all, flirting is fun. Avoid it like the plague. It’s dangerous. If someone flirts with you, ignore it. What falls into the category of flirting? Here’s one explanation of what flirting is. “[It] usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony… Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, etc.”

Married people should never engage in this type of behavior with anyone other than their spouse. It is a full-on form of unfaithfulness that leads to no good. The one you’re flirting with may take it as an invitation and pursue a relationship you never intended.

2. Confiding in the opposite gender

When you pour out your troubles to someone of the opposite gender you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. It may seem harmless. After all, you just needed a shoulder to cry on. If you’ve got a problem, talk about it with your spouse. That’s your best-ever shoulder to cry on. If that’s not working for you, try a trusted relative, clergyman, or therapist. Not someone who may consider this an invitation for intimacy. Even if it doesn’t start that way, too often it ends that way. It’s a form of unfaithfulness.

3. Spending time alone with someone else

What appears to be an innocent lunch out with someone of the opposite sex or stopping by for a chat at that someone’s home without your spouse is definitely in the category of unfaithful behavior. You or the other person may say, “Hey, we’re both adults. Nothing’s going to happen.” Well, things do happen. It’s not appropriate. Go home and spend that time with your spouse.

4. Talking negatively about your mate

When you are a true friend to someone you never say bad things about them to others. Your mate is your best friend and is the last person you should ever talk about negatively. If you have a beef with your honey, talk it out with him or her. Let your conversations with others focus on the good things about your spouse. That’s being faithful. The exception here is abuse. If abuse is happening it needs to be reported to a trusted friend, counselor, and the police. You must keep yourself safe.

5. Chatting on the Internet with someone of the opposite sex

If you think this is harmless, think again. It may start out that way, but it definitely won’t end that way. Some have engaged in what they considered innocent talk with a former boyfriend or girlfriend from high school or college days, or even a stranger. One thing can lead to another and before you know it, your marriage is in jeopardy. Don’t do it. It will only end in sorrow and heartbreak for your family.

6. Dressing to attract the attention of someone other than your spouse

If you’re dressing up to look good for someone else, you need to reexamine your motives. Trying to attract someone else by wearing a sexy looking outfit is one more way to jump into unfaithful waters.

7. Writing personal intimate notes or letters to someone else

If you’re writing a letter of condolence or congratulations, or other good wishes, let it be from both you and your spouse. Then there will be no misunderstanding about your intentions.

8. Not being a willing sexual partner with your spouse

Being faithful to your spouse means giving yourself over to him or her to enjoy the intimate side of your marriage. To withhold sexual intimacy from your spouse if not doing your part in keeping your marriage strong and fulfilling. It creates sorrow and even suspicion. Being a faithful spouse means doing your part to make it a beautiful relationship in all aspects.

9. Putting your parents before your spouse

Your spouse must always be the number one person in your life. If something wonderful happens to you, like a promotion, a confirmation of a pregnancy, or any other good news, you may be tempted to immediately call a parent to share in the joy. Resist. Let your spouse be the first to know your good news. Then share it with others.

10. Putting your children before your spouse

Kids matter. They are very important people in your life, but not more important than your spouse. If you knock your spouse off the top of your priority list you are not showing total fidelity to him or her. Your mate must come first. Not only does it cement your marriage and make it stronger, it gives your children the best security blanket they will ever have.

Check yourself on these points and make sure you are being 100 percent faithful to your spouse. By doing this you will create a genuinely happy and fulfilling marriage.